Dating After Divorce

Dating after Divorce

Divorce rates remain high in America. Not only does this mean that many adult men and women are alone and available, it also means that many of them are wondering how to get back in the playing field.

After years of being in a relationship, you might find dating after divorce a daunting task. In fact, the mere thought of dating after divorce might just be overwhelming enough to scare you off the prospect…permanently. Tumultuous breakups do that to a person, damaging your self-esteem so that you will end up doubting over your chances of dating after divorce, not to mention worrying over your rusty dating skills.

But while you might think that you are alone, rest assured that you are not. In fact, according to the US Census Bureau, approximately 9 out of 10 people will marry but about one half of first marriages end in divorce. From 1970 to 1996, the number of women living alone doubled to 14.6 million. For men, the number nearly tripled, leaping from 3.5 million to 10.3 million.

So with so many singles out there, there's probably a lot of dating going on, right? But sadly that is not true. It seems that the older we get, the less dating we do. Social psychologist Jerald G. Bachman, Ph.D., of the University of Michigan Institute for Social Research, conducted a study where he found that nearly 50 percent of 18-year-olds go out at least once a week. However, when it came to 32-yeard-old adults, he found that only an approximate 25 percent dated.

Now, it is quite possible that some people simply do not choose to deal with dating after divorce. But while that is true, there are others like you who may want to start dating but don't know how to or can't overcome their negative self-thoughts. So how do you overcome these obstacles and get back in the dating arena?

Well, the first order of the day is to set appropriate personal standards. More particularly, ask yourself some questions that would help you get an idea on how you are going to act. Will you play hard to get? Or will you be an easy catch? Call it your "social price," if you will. The more you have to give in a relationship, the higher your social price should be.

Base your social price on the following factors:

* Inner strength
* Kindness
* Intelligence
* Affection

While these things are usually imperceptible, they can be seen through how you act, the way you speak, and your body language. So it is important that your actions should speak for who you are as a person and how you perceive yourself in the eyes of others.