Divorce Advice Getting Divorce Advice From The Right Source

"Divorce Advice: Getting Divorce Advice From the Right

Source"

 by: Karl Augustine

Getting the right

type of divorce advice depends on what type of divorce advice you want and what

you want to use it for. When looking for advice about divorce, it is smart to

clearly define what you are seeking the advice for so you can be sure to look in

the right places.

Seems simple enough right?

Yes, but...lots of

people who are deciding about divorce and seeking divorce advice lump the

categories of divorce advice into one, and that's a big mistake. You should seek

divorce advice from different types of places for the different types of advice

that you need. Certainly there's more types of divorce advice categories, but

here's a partial list:

Divorce advice type 1: Legal advice for getting a

divorce when you are sure that you want a divorce, no matter how tough it will

be to get that divorce. When asking for this type of divorce advice while

meeting with an attorney, you may be asked if you're certain that you actually

do want a divorce…if you do, don't waver, stick to your decision. It makes sense

to have a good idea of all of the parts of your life, family and materials, that

could be affected or sought after. You want to have your facts, account names,

timelines, etc., in mind when meeting with the attorney so that your discussion

is maximized.

Divorce advice type 2: Legal advice for getting a divorce

when you are almost sure that you want a divorce, but want to make sure that the

financial considerations are in order or that health of your children won't

suffer in the long run. When asking for this type of divorce advice, you may

want to consider seeking the advice of an attorney or financial planner for the

financial considerations and a counselor experienced in family matters for the

impact that a divorce might have on your children. The point is, split the two

concerns up so that you get the chance to speak to 2 different people who

specialize in each area so that you will get the appropriate divorce

advice.

Divorce advice type 3: Legal advice for getting a divorce in a case

that is relatively simple and will be a clean break, no financial or other

family considerations to take into account for the divorce. This is perhaps the

easiest type of divorce advice to get because it infers that you have already

made the decision from an emotional standpoint and really don't have any other

considerations of deep concern. When seeking this type of divorce advice, you

most likely have limited financial considerations, a prenuptial agreement, or

the situation itself as amenable to everyone and you just need someone to do the

paperwork.

Divorce advice type 4: Legal and/or counseling advice regarding

whether or not divorce is right for you from a psychological, emotional and

financial perspective. When asking for this type of divorce advice, you may want

to consider seeking the advice of an attorney or financial planner for the

financial considerations and a counselor experienced in Clinical Psychology and

"personal-life" coaching for the impact that a divorce might have on you. Again,

the point is, split the two concerns up so that you get a chance to speak to 2

different people who specialize in each area so that you will get the

appropriate divorce advice.

Divorce advice type 5: Counseling for emotional

support when deciding whether or not you really want a divorce or are just

unhappy in your marriage. This type of divorce advice is crucial to your

happiness because when you're in an emotional state, it is tough to make lucid

and rational decisions. And, if you're wrestling with deciding whether or not to

get a divorce (purely from an emotional perspective), you should do all you can

to make a logical decision because how you approach this decision and the

affects afterwards can be long lasting and far reaching. If you're are

struggling with finding divorce advice, you may want to talk to friends,

counselors, even other family members.

But, my divorce advice to you is,

do it yourself.

I'm not saying don't talk with friends, counselors, and

possibly family. What I am suggesting is that you reach the final decision of

whether to get a divorce on your own, you have to live with it, no one else. The

answer is inside you, you just have to get it out in a logical

manner.

Whatever type of divorce advice you need, be sure that you're

directing your energies in the right direction. If you don't separate the

emotional aspects from the legal aspects of divorce advice, you might end up

confused and unable to get the most out of any meeting you may have with an

attorney or marriage counselor. At the end of the day, you should control your

own destiny and make a smart decision based on logic, controlled emotion, and

forward thinking.